------Another Perspective--------

Reduced and Soft Speech
a conversation Tim Neal and KhaazRa
12-18-06
If u r interested in thinking outside of the box, learning a new way of life, want something more than what this western dominated culture has to offer and desire to see life from another perspective, continue to read. The conversation below may serve as a turning point in how we deal with daily situations.

Too often, there is too much chatter going on, drowning out the inner voice. I won't belabor the point, because u will form your opinion and actions after reading the convo below. Start from the bottom with #1 and work your way up just as it is done with the Paut Neteru with the ancient Ausarian Society in working from the physical body up to the spiritual womb/man.

(#4) From KhaazRa to Tim:

Very interesting indeed.  Reminds me of wu-wei, the art of doing nothing, yet getting everything done….  This silence u speak of may be healing as well.  And u r right, sometimes silence will kill a conversation altogether, especially when there is too much chatter.

On the other side of this, being that many of our cultural practices here are alien, if we don’t constantly speak to these issues for enlightenment or whatever, those of us that don’t know, repeat the mistakes because no one ever told them.  Also in a relationship, issues must be discussed or communicated or else they happen again, again and again, yet silence can be golden and acquiescence, pending the situation.

Thanks for this article…


(#3) From Tim to KhaazRa:

Good question/point.But those people are "One in a million" so to speak,here in Japan people are very quiet compared to the West. I was on a train the other day (cell phones not allowed,by the way) and it was dead silent! This was a train with hundreds of people on it,everyone was readingor sleeping or just sitting quietly! I wonder if this has anything to do with their longevity? (best in the world)
 
Differences Between the Cultures
  • West emphasizes words whereas the East deemphasizes them
  • The Japanese view truth as occurring in the 'inner realms”
  • the outer self can be seen to portray deception and even "moral falsity”
  • Truthfulness is seen to come from silence and Japanese view those who speak little to be more trustworthy than those who talk a lot

    Mokusatsu (Mohkuu-sahtsuu) March 2000
    Killing with silence

Foreign diplomats, politicians and businessmen dealing with Japan regularly find themselves in situations where their wisdom and foreign experience fails them, and they do not know what to do.
 
These occurrences almost always result in the rapid buildup of stress and frustrations that often make the situation worse, with the foreign side typically over-reacting and making mistakes.
 
One of the main causes of these frustrating experiences derives from differences in how Westerners and the Japanese have been conditioned to view and use time; and in culturally induced modes of communication.
Many Westerners, particularly Americans, have been conditioned to view time as something like a train speeding down a straight tract. The train never slows down or stops, and they have a compulsive, deep-seated need to be on it, moving toward specific goals.
 
Japanese, on the other hand, have traditionally viewed the time track as a circle, with the train moving slowly and repeatedly passing the same place over a period of time. Slow movement, and sometimes getting off the train altogether, has not filled the Japanese with a dreadful sense of wasting time.
 
Many of the arts of Japan also incorporated the concept of slowing time or stopping it altogether; of capturing the essence of life in a timeless evocation of nature through poetry, through meditation; or in contemplating art or handicrafts that were refined down to their essence and were therefore timeless.
 
One of the most common and important time factors in Japanese negotiations or discussions about serious matters was - and still is - the use of time gaps or breaks. Their people involved simply stop talking. They may just sit and remain silent (often with their eyes closed), get up and leave the room for short periods, or hold low-voiced side conversations with their colleagues.
 
Japanese negotiators and others develop varying degrees of skill in using these time gaps to their own advantage - so much so that there is a special term used in reference to the process: mokusatsu (mohkuu-sahtsuu), which means "killing with silence".
 
Mokusatsu refers to the idea of "killing" the other party's case or proposition by letting it die in the vacuum of silence.
 
Americans and other aggressive types are especially susceptible to being tripped up by time gaps because they have been conditioned to abhor vacuums - to jump into any gap in a conditioned reflex to keep the dialogue from lagging or stopping.
 
Too often the foreign side presumes that the Japanese do not understand the points that were made, or that they have not yet accepted the reasoning of the foreign side and need more convincing.
 
This presumption regularly leads to hurried repetitions and frequently to on-the-spot revisions or compromises that favor the Japanese.
 
The proper defense for a mokusatsu ploy is simple. Just do as the Japanese do - rest and think, make use of the break to refer to notes, hold private discussions with your own colleagues, and so on. It also pays to introduce your own time gaps, and have control of the ball.
 
Japanese have traditionally had another advantage over Westerners when it comes to negotiations. The homogeneity of their culture made it possible for them to understand each other to a remarkable degree without the use of words. Generally speaking, they have been so conditioned to think and behave alike that they can, still today, anticipate each other's attitudes and behavior, making it possible for them to leave many things unsaid.

(#2) From KhaazRa to Tim:

Nice article and I agree to an extent, yet how do we account for the millions that entertainers make and they speak all the time? People like Oprah, rappers, etc…


(#1) From Tim to KhaazRa:

In addition to withholding the expression of our thoughts and intentions to others, simply reducing the quantity of the words we speak also tends to attract positive responses from life. This is the case because there is a power in the speech we express through our voice. Our vocalizations originate in our vital/life center, and thus carries a life-power and energy. If we speak too much, these energies are squandered, which tends attract corresponding negative results from the field of life. However, if we conserve our energies through reduced speech - or, better yet, by completely remaining silent - the energies are fortified and strengthened, which tends to attract sudden and abundant good fortune from the world around us.
 
One of the ways we can avoid  pitfalls, and, instead, attract good fortune, is to identify our “speech threshold,” and then make an effort to draw back from it.
 
Why then do we speak so much? One reason is that we love the sound of our own voice! Another reason is that we also enjoy the stimulation of interacting with others. It has been suggested that 80% of our conversations take place in a social context, and it is in these stimulating interactions that we feel compelled to vocalize our thoughts and feelings. If, on the other hand, we were to recognize this fact, and control ourselves in such social situations, we would not only reduce the quantity of speech, but we would in return elicit powerful positive responses from life.
 
In should be pointed out that in addition to reducing the quantity of the words we speak, we can also reduce the volume and frequency of our speech. When we speak loudly and boisterously, life tends to get disturbed and attract negative outcomes. However, if we practice “soft speech,” by speaking in a low, soft voice, then good fortune is likely to come our way. In particular, we have noticed that when an individual takes to soft speech, more money and other forms of financial benefit tend to move in one’s direction.
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